In our hyper-connected and modern world, with busy schedules and work weekends, it’s hard to make new friends on a regular basis. Often times, you can find yourself in a position where people or situations can make you feel unwelcome.
How can you handle the rejection then? Speaker Cam Adair’s inspirational TEDx talk is a great place to start if you’re faced with rejection. Watch the video here:
Cam recounted her journey with bullying at school, how the cruelty of it left an indelible wound in her young mind. He stressed the importance of not giving up and of persevering.
He explained, “After two years of struggling to figure out why me, I decided that I had to make a change. I had to change the way it was. I couldn’t do it anymore. And in a moment of inspiration, I decided to ask myself a different question: if I could change this circumstance, if I could change my situation, would I? If I could learn how to make new friends, would I? If it was really possible, if I could do it, would I? And with every ounce of my being, I knew yes, I would.
He added: “I made a commitment to myself: I was going to be a game changer. I was going to learn how to make new friends. I was going to learn to be happy again, to smile again. So I went on a trip. I didn’t really know what I was doing, so I approached it as a great experience. I experimented until I learned what I needed to learn. To make friends, I needed to meet more people, so I started dating, which led to me going out every night for three years. It wasn’t a party, however, so I made it sober and kept a journal of the lessons I was learning.
Cam concluded by saying, “I have learned that rejection is a compass. It teaches you what you don’t want, so that you can learn what you are doing. My friend says, “From our greatest rejection comes our greatest sense of direction.”
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