Watch: Gwyneth Paltrow ‘Almost Died’ Giving Birth to Apple
Childbirth is meant to be a joyful – albeit somewhat painful – experience. But for star Gwyneth Paltrow, it was one of the most terrifying moments of her life.
This week she revealed to Exper armchairShe didn’t podcast that in May 2004, she nearly died giving birth to her first child, and her daughter Apple was also in danger.
She explained, “I have had two Caesarean sections. My daughter was an emergency. It was crazy – we almost died. It was, like, not good.
She has also previously spoken of having suffered a miscarriage, saying, “I had a really bad experience when I was pregnant with my third.”
“It didn’t work and I almost died.”
Back then, right after Apple was born, Gwyneth and her then-husband, Cold game singer Chris Martin said they were “ecstatic” after the long labor.
A statement read: “Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin are delighted to announce the birth of their first child, Apple Blythe Alison Martin, who was born in London after long labor on May 14 and weighed 9 pounds 11 ounces.”
They added, “We are 900 miles above the moon. We would like to thank everyone at the hospital who took care of us in an incredible way.
“The mother and the baby are doing very well.”
Originally, the couple planned that Gwyneth would give birth at home and set up a birthing pool. She had also visited regularly St John’s and St Elizabeth’s private hospital in St John’s Wood, north London, which offers alternative approaches to childbirth – other stars Emma Thompson and Kate Winslet gave birth there.
But with her life and that of the baby in danger, the decision was made to rush her for an emergency Cesarean. She then briefly revealed that not everything had gone well during the pregnancy.
“It is very important to be active when you are pregnant – well, if you are sick you have to lie down in bed. I did it, ”she told a reporter at the launch of her personal trainer Tracey Anderson’s prenatal fitness series. The Pregnancy Project in 2012.
Gwyneth’s second child, Moses, was born on April 8, 2006 in New York City. Her name was inspired by Martin’s song “Moses”, which was written for her.
But although she recovered quickly after the traumatic birth of Apple, five years after her second C-section, she told an American TV show. The conversation with Amanda de Cadenet, “I couldn’t connect with my son like I had with my daughter, and I couldn’t understand why.
“I couldn’t connect with anyone. I felt like a zombie. I felt very detached.
“I just didn’t know what was wrong with me. I couldn’t figure it out. It never occurred to me,” she continued. “My husband [then Chris Martin] actually said, ‘Something is wrong. I think you have postpartum depression. I was mortified. “No, I don’t! And then I started to research what it was and the symptoms and I was like, ‘Oh, yeah, I know that.’ “
She has since expressed her concerns about the disease.
“We think that (having the PND) makes us bad mothers or that we didn’t do it well, but it’s like we’re all in the same boat,” she said.
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“I never understand why mothers judge other mothers, like, ‘What do you mean you didn’t breastfeed? What do you mean by you didn’t do that? It’s like, ‘Can’t we all just be on each other’s side?’
“It’s so difficult anyway. Can’t we all help each other get through this? There’s a shame in that because if you say, ‘I had a baby and I couldn’t connecting to the baby ‘is like,’ What’s wrong with you? ‘”
Explaining why she was revealing her mental health issue, the Oscar winner added, “That’s why I’m talking about it, because even awareness has started to diminish it..
“Because I didn’t feel like I was dying or being crazy – period. It’s like, ‘Oh, that’s one thing. It’s a real thing and these are the symptoms and I have them. have all. ‘”
Paltrow and Martin divorced in 2014, in the now famous “conscious decoupling,” with the ex-couple engaged in co-parenting.
“It’s been tough and we’ve been through some really tough times,” Gwyneth admitted, “but we’ve always said these kids are our priority. What it really means is that even though today you hate me. and you never want to see me again, we’re going for brunch because it’s sunday and that’s what we’re gonna do.
The actor also told podcast host Dax Shepard about the aftermath of his Caesarean section, saying, “There’s a big scar on your body, and you’re like, ‘Oh, wow, that didn’t exist before. “.
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“And it’s not that it’s bad, or that you want to judge it, but you’re just like, ‘Oh, my god. “”
She also said: “Thank goodness there was no Instagram when I had babies, because now it’s like I’m seeing someone, ‘Oh, I just gave birth ago. two weeks and I’ve got a stomach all to wash out, ‘I’m like,’ wow, that’s not what I (looked like) ‘.
“And … more power for the lady with the washboard, but that’s totally the exception and … now we’re fed all these other images of what we’re supposed to look like all the time – babies, no babies, whatever.
“I think women really need to be friends with each other and (let go) all judgment about how you have a baby, ‘breastfeed, don’t you, do you go to work, don’t you go to work? “
She continued, “Guess what, anything, it’s okay. I feel like we also have this weird thing around, it’s past perfectionism, it’s like,” I can do this gargantuan task. who is superhuman “… and why? For what?”
Paltrow is now married to writer and producer Brad Falchuck but remains friends with Chris Martin.
As her children grew older, she spoke of the challenges of the “difficult, rewarding and very emotional” task of motherhood.
“I mean the other night I was in the bath and texted my best friend mom: am I screwing this up?” Paltrow said People magazine, adding that parenting is “hard, but it’s the most important thing I do.
“It’s like reliving childhood, but standing next to the people you love more than anyone in the world and helping them endure their sorrows, mistakes and triumphs.”
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